01 September 2011

That's a Pretty Big Hint...

Last night I was hit up on Facebook by a boy I went on a date with about a year ago. We hadn't spoken in months, and the last time he saw me, I was with boyfriend. My profile now indicates that I'm single, but it has only been that way for a couple of weeks. I don't know if he's been keeping tabs on me, or just felt lucky, but he didn't wait long before asking:

"When are you going to let me take you on a date again?"

This was the last thing I wanted to hear. I'm still healing from my last relationship, and the main reason my last relationship is no longer existent is because I don't want to be in a relationship. If I did, I would still be holding onto the wonderful guy I had before. If he were brand new, I would be more forgiving, but since he met my ex, you would think he would understand that he was no longer an item on my agenda.

I explained to him that I had no interest in dating anyone, and that he and I were not a match anyway. He replies:

"How do you know? You didn't even give me a chance."

So it was one date. It was okay. We made out, which was fun, but it definitely meant something different to him than it did to me. My mistake. Clinginess ensued. The word 'baby' was uttered in my direction. Cute? To some, perhaps. But he was also quite rude to people who were closer to me, which is a huge no-no, and something I won't stand for. He came off as very jealous and possessive. After only one date, I felt smothered. It was a pretty terrible week for me.

And now, he wants back in. After not speaking to me for a full year. After I've been in and out of the longest relationship of my life. I can't expect him to know everything that is going on in my life, and I'm glad that he doesn't, but to pop up out of nowhere after so long and ask for another date...seems incredibly desperate, don't you think? This is not flattering.

Lesson Learned: If there has been a full relationship between now and your last date, it's probably not going to happen.

- Lucas

No comments:

Post a Comment

Thanks for your comment! Please 'follow" us by clicking on the "follow" link to the left of the site page. Glad you are reading.