30 June 2011

You've Got to Be Kidding Me: Why I Left Manhunt



I am in a relationship right now, but back when I was single, I was all about the online dating. It was almost like an addiction, to tell the truth. I often deleted accounts with certain sites, but went back and to open new ones because I wasn't able to meet boys anywhere else. In my lifetime I would estimate that I've had three profiles on Manhunt, two each on Adam4Adam, Gay.com, and Connexion, and only one on Dudesnude or Recon.

As I'm sure you can tell by my statistics, Manhunt was the toughest habit to kick. There was a period when I would barely hesitate to cough up that monthly fee so I could see the extra dick photos and get unlimited emails. To tell the truth, I still perk up when I see that specific "New Mail" icon, even on somebody else's account. Finally I reached a point where I was comfortable leaving for good because the other users were so insanely cruel to me.

A lot of older men especially would track me down on this site and proposition me. I have a lot of pleasant friendships with older guys, but sexually they just don't do anything for me. I would politely decline, but then they would respond like I was some shallow, immature twat who didn't know how to take a compliment.

For example, this guy. This exchange was possibly my favorite:
"Very Sub Deep throat Oral Power Bottom love to have a reg fuckbud. I off today Leaving Wed For Florida With friends GayDays at Disney."

I'm pretty sure English was his first language too. I responded:
"To be honest, I'm not really feeling it. Thanks for the interest though."

He replies:
"i wasn't looking to hook up .But its ok Your still a child an I can see you have a lack of Talking Skills an i Can see you Judge a Book by its Cover Have Fun Hope you grow up soon."

Yes, my friends. This is real. I was so baffled by this exchange that I copied and pasted it, in it's natural form, and saved it for over two years. It's that priceless.

This is the kind of abuse that gay men suffer from their own kind. And all over one little blowjob. Do you think we have anger management issues? Or self-esteem issues? Or some repulsive mutant hybrid of the two?

Point of the conversation: Although it sometimes seems easier, online dating can be even more damaging to your self-esteem than meeting people in real life. Especially Manhunt. Them guys are jack-asses.

- Lucas

1 comment:

  1. As an older gay man myself, it's embarrassing to read how you were treated. I apologize for us as a group, although I know this is unfortunately too common. I don't know what these guys could be thinking. You're 65, the younger guy is 25, yet you get mad when he doesn't want to rush over???
    I know several inter-generational couples who seem very happy, and that's great. I just don't like it when some of us older guys treat you so badly.

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